Venue? Booked. Band? Booked (you never want to hear Uptown Funk or Valerie as long as you both shall live!) Bride to be is spending afternoons dress shopping and you now have an uncanny knowledge of the cost of fresh roses and gypsophila. Wedding plans are well under way.
When you're focused on keeping everyone else happy, it's easy to overlook yourself. Guests don't gasp in awe at the beauty of the groom and the dress is something that's talked about for months before, hours during and years after the wedding.
But that doesn't mean that the groom's outfit doesn't matter. In my business, I've seen a lot of grooms come to us because they want something different. It seems that gentlemen are more conscious about how they look on their wedding day, and rightly so.
How will you be dressed? was asked frequently in the run up to my wedding and people were surprised that my answer was traditionally. I love highland wear, it looks great if worn properly, but it has come under fire in recent years. There seems to be an opinion that highland wear is a bit old fashioned. Kilt hire shops have a lot to answer for; their dominance of the industry with ill fitting garments made from cheap fabrics have been detrimental to the traditional aesthetic and the general knowledge of the subject. But done well it can look timeless and resplendent.
My style is understated yet deliberate. I carefully put together an outfit taking into consideration things like time of year and occasion. What I chose to wear to my wedding was no different. I've worn a hired kilt 3 or 4 times in my life, and each time I hated the fact that it didn't quite fit properly and it wasn't mine, so if ever there was a time to have a kilt made it was now. Moore doesn't have a tartan, so I did a bit of research and thanks to a friend at the Scottish Tartans authority, I was given some options. I opted for the Muir tartan; a large blue and green check with thinner stripes of red and a bold yellow overcheck, bold, but not loud.
I worked with my tailors to create a classic day jacket and waistcoat to go with my kilt. I wanted something simple and unique. I chose a Scottish cashmere blend as the fabric; slate grey with a very small herringbone pattern. I like a wider lapel, there's a certain vintage charm about it and I added a shawl lapel to the waistcoat to match. The garments were accented with beautiful unpolished horn buttons, matching the natural material used for the hilt of my sgian dhu.
The outfit in entirety was understated and traditional, but it showed my personality. Clean and simple, with no fuss or bling, enough of a statement to stand out without drawing too much attention.
I don't believe that there are, or should be, any hard and fast rules to what you wear on your wedding day. It's your day, it's about you and your bride. Wear what makes you feel good and helps you look your best. If you don't like kilts, don't wear one. If I could offer any advice at all it would be this:
Do some research
Who or what inspires you? For me it was Prince Charles in Scotland. You might have a thing for Gatsby, or Dickie Greenleaf, or Cpt Rhett Butler. Whoever or whatever inspires you can act as a foundation for you to build your look upon.
Buy the best quality you can
Some kilt hire shops offer a shirt to go with your outfit for an extra £5. Do you really want to be wearing a £5 shirt on your wedding day? Splash out a little, indulge yourself. Remember that most of the things you wear on your wedding can be worn again, so go for those handmade shoes, or personalised cufflinks, you won't regret it.
Think about how small details can enhance your look. Personalised or vintage cufflinks, a family kilt pin, a special tie. Little things that add unexpected curiosity can transform your outfit and make it personal and memorable to you and your new wife.
Image - Gavin MacQueen Photography.