|Fashion’s Dorian Grey; Tom Ford is usually cited as the definition of a modern day gentleman, quoted with rules and guidelines on how to live a more gentile and chivalrous existence.
According to the American designer, a set of perfect teeth contributes to being a gentleman, along with a well cut dark suit and a metal strapped day watch. He also advises that a gentleman should never wear shorts in the city and should have a wardrobe stocked with crisp white shirts.
Personally I think being a gentleman is about more than when you wear your shorts or the watch you wear, it’s about your actions. I don’t mean grand gestures of chivalry, but small daily actions and attitudes.
So below are my top 10 daily habits of a gentleman.
1. Manners cost nothing – cliched but true – please & thank you with a smile in every situation goes a long way.
2. Respect – have an opinion, be steadfast in it, but respect the fact that everyone else has one too.
3. Take responsibility – everyone makes mistakes and it’s fine. If you’ve dropped the ball, hold your hands up and do your best to pick it back up.
4. Turn up – if you agree to something, do it. Turn up and give it your all.
5. Be on time – some people are late all the time, it’s not cute or cool or quirky, it’s annoying and disrespectful, just leave earlier.
6. Be passionate – no one likes a fence sitter, voice your opinion with conviction and confidence.
7. Be confident – confidence is one of the best qualities anyone can have, and it can be learned. Believe in yourself and others will follow.
8. Chivalry isn’t dead – hold open the door, share your umbrella, pay a compliment, help someone with their bags, give up your seat – small acts that make a big difference.
9. Shake hands firmly, with a smile and maintaining eye contact – but remember it’s not a competition for alpha male dominance.
10. Show kindness – offer to help someone, pay a compliment, lend your ear to someone. You never know the impact you could have on someone with a small and simple gesture.
What do you think? Is there more to being a gentleman than aesthetics? Does how you dress or style your hair make a difference?